The famous quotes of Yoda from the Star Wars movie “No. Try Not. Do or Don’t. There is not try”! is so true.
You are either reading this article, or not. There is no in between. There is no trying. Most of the time, when a person says they are “trying” covers up the deeper implication that they are not committed to the outcome.
Tony Robbins used a perfect example to explain this. At one of his events, a women had a question about improving her relationship. She explained that she had tried everything but was unable to succeed in healing the relationship with her husband, and that she was at the verge of giving up.
Tony then asked, “Can you try picking up the pen in the chair next to you?”
The women picked up the pen!
Tony said “No. I want you to try picking up the pen. But you picked it up. Let’s try again!”
The women was confused. She did not understand what Tony was trying to get at.
She placed the pen back in the chair and started staring at it.
Tony then said “You are not trying to pick up the pen. Please try again!”
Looking at the confused face of the women, Tony explained, “there is no trying. You either do it or don’t”
If you really want to achieve something, stop trying. By saying that you are trying, you are opening an option to failure. By definition trying means making an effort, and you must guard agains making it a way for you to excuse yourself for not achieving something and not getting the desired result in the end.
Do you see the difference? You either do something or you don’t. To achieve something, whether big or small, you need to start somewhere, generally small, and keep building. You need to take one step at a time to reach 10,000 steps! Trying in this context is doing nothing but thinking about it, and a sure way to failure.
What are you trying improve?
Are you trying to improve your productivity, or are you improving your productivity?
Are you trying to exercise, or are you exercising?
Are you trying to improve you life, or are you improving your life?
Though the difference may be considered small, it has huge impact on your achievements.
It is time to reflect on your actions, stop trying and start just doing. You might possibly fail, but you will learn. Your brain will get the feed back and readjust and do the same in a different way to succeed.
Here are some suggestions:
• Change your vocabulary, remove “try” from it.
We use our vocabulary to program our mind to perform in certain way. Using the wrong word can hinder your performance. “Try” is a useless word in case you really want to achieve something. It makes you feel better in case of failures. The formula to achieve anything is, commit to something and make it happen.
• Commit to outcome.
You don’t have to do anything. Only do those things you want to do. Go all in. Never give up until you achieve it. Take one step at a time. Just do, never try!
Your rarely achieve anything by accident. Commit to your goal/s and make it happen, a little at a time.
• Decide to Do it.
If you want to do something do it. Conversely, if you don’t want to do something then don’t do it. But don’t mistake trying for actually doing something. Every achievement start with a decision.
• Believe You can Do it.
Mahatama Gandhi, the Indian Freedom fighter, said “If I have the belief I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not in the beginning”. This is so true. The moment you believe in something the mechanisms in your brain start chasing the goal by turning to more resourceful opportunities and creating the right circumstance around you.
“If I have the belief I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not have in the beginning”
• Just Do It.
The choice of words you use, and before you reason and talk your self out of something, just do it. Sometimes, our pride says it is impossible, your experience gives you some feedback that the act in too risky and unworthy. But do it any way in order to accomplish the great things.
Question: What are the goals you are trying achieve instead of doing?