Everyone wants to be successful - in their own terms - and you, like most people do have what it takes to produce outstanding results. Most people are unusually competent and brave too. They are able to face unpleasantness, to let everything play out according to nature.
So let’s clarify what you do differently when you are successful, replicate this, innovate, and nourish your successful habits and mindset more consistently.
You are the lynch pin
We are not discussing someone else’s success. If you want to be successful, it starts with you. You are the major force in your life. You must develop and ‘own’ your identity and internal conviction. This often means that you must change the way you do things. By changing the way you do things, you will get different results in life. What you do each day has got you to where you are right now. Therefore, if you continue to do what you have always been doing, whilst you might stay where you are, you will never get to the new places you want to go.
Gremlins enter your life when you are wounded and something essential is lost in that experience. From that point on, you forget your wholeness, and the gremlins remain with you in the shadows, with the tendencies of the child who buries her head in the pillow and tells herself that light causes sadness.
If gremlins pay you a visit, know that they represent the shadow of your own or someone else’s that lead you into a potentially reactive situation, However, their appearance in your life is positive in that they present an opportunity to ignite growth and healing, and are a signal that you must love yourself. Take a deep breath and look within. Be present. Stay. Give light to the shadow by loving yourself.
Quieten your mind and open your heart to the only one guru for you, and that guru is you. It is no longer about knowing if this or that is “right”. In essence, you must not be as interested in right; what is more relevant is what is right for you? Success will not lower its standard to you. You must raisey our standard to success. It’s your life. Live it big, or small - the choice is yours.
We are the creatures of habits. It is what we consistently do that determines who we are. Rome was not built in a day, neither were you. Bill Gates did not grow Microsoft into a multi-billion company in a year. The same was true of Don Bradman or Sachin Tandulkar - they did not become cricket stars in just a month.
Great work takes time. If you want to be successful, it is going to take time and you must be able to change and improve how you manage yourself Small, consistent effort will enable you to achieve goals you only dreamed about.
However, do not let time be the deterrent. This can sound like: “I can’t right now. I want to gvet myself ready so that I can focus.” The challenge is, you will never get out of your rut or your roller coaster, if you don’t do it now. Timing here is a lame excuse. You must break free. Freedom is given to those who know how to get it and will do that it takes. Nothing really authentic wants a holiday from existence. Awareness is always joyfully on. Why miss the glorious experience of Life unfolding through an instant of inattention?
So much is happening. For months, years, decades you’ve been waiting for the stars to align, the right phase of the moon, and for the clock to stop ticking. The night asks what has become of your time and voice, now barely a whisper amidst this atmosphere of deceit and quiet desperation. Where are you with your personal evolution?
However, you’ve been transforming as you wait, while the world changes, as it does, and as it always will. Have you observed incremental changes as you liquidate memory and emotion? The night demands greater attention to the present and past predicaments. Stay awake to attempt an answer to this confusion. Capture that change. Acknowledge not only what is happening, but also what can happen. It can happen right here.
And those dreams? Don't let them go unlived. But dream the dreams that awaken you and keep you awake, not those that put you into a deeper sleep.
A breath, or the wind, wishes soft thoughts and greater strength. The page, the screen has edges; the real world does not. Opinions, thoughts and people with messages and voices travel through the gravity-defying glass and concrete buildings, and swiftly across the streets of sweet suburbia built over farmlands and ancient burial grounds serviced by the multi-lane highways butting up against old-growth forests. Lessons are found on the pavements, amongst the homeless, artists, tattooed love children and well-heeled pensioners, as much as they are in education’s hallowed halls or the food courts and washrooms of cash-strapped shopping malls. Like the breath, wisdom is found in the breeze, most times gentle. It travels through us all, picking up the scent of humanity and carrying the emotions we live with day after day. Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.
There is an attitude that cannot be denied, and there is a new place to find these thoughts. Wake up and dream. Capture the mood of the moment. Express ideas and desire of someone who wants something more than what is dealt out by politicians, franchised into mediocrity, and allocated by a society that has lost its way.
Are we dreaming? … and isn’t that what this life is all about?
Desire and Empowered Vision
Most people do not do great things with their lives simply because they do not know what they want their lives to look like. They might be dissatisfied with how their life feels at this moment, but are unclear about their dreams and aspirations. Do not let this happen to you. Find a purpose in life and know what you want to accomplish.
It does not matter if you do not have the skills or talents currently. All you need now is to find out how you want to be and what you want to accomplish with your life, so that you can then craft your journey, as a homing pigeon, and prepare yourself to get there.
Be unafraid to think big and dream big. As long as you are going to be thinking, you might as well bring some big thinking into the mix. Thinking is free, and if your desire is big enough, it will inspire and drive you into taking action. Dare something worthy.
Be Passionate with your Work
When we look at all the successful people around us, whether in business, sport, the arts, whatever, they seem extremely passionate. They love what they do, often to the point of being obsessed with it.
Our work fills a large part of our lives, and a sure way to be truly satisfied, is to do what you believe is great work. And the way to do great work is to love what you do.
If you are not passionate with your work, you will complain, sabotage and eventually give up whenever you face obstacles or setbacks. Living a successful life is not going to be always easy. You will have to muster up a lot of discipline, commitment and determination to do it. And if you do not have the passion for it, you will quit and give up sooner than you can imagine. Remember, giving up because it isn’t easy, can become a habit.
When you are passionate about something, you are willing to sacrifice and commit for it. Being extremely passionate about anything will be why you are able to wake up earlier in the morning, work harder at it, and go the extra mile to achieve outstanding results. Be passionate with whatever you do.
Commitment and Determination
How committed are you with what you want to achieve with your life? Are you willing to sacrifice your leisure time for it? Progress comes about when you come out of your comfort zone. You will have to bite the bullet and do things that you often hate to do. Watching TV, playing computer games, following Tweets and friends on Facebook are easy things to do, which is why you would have noticed that in your spurts before success you don’t do much of it.
Being fully committed to your vision and your goals is helpful in realising them. Don’t just dream about your dreams. Take action. Commit. When you decide and commit to what you want to accomplish in your life, that’s it. No more questions are asked, and there will be no other options for you except to just do it and make it happen.
This is how you and all the people who have achieved results out there, have done it in the past. Never give up and never ignore your dreams. Focus in on what you want, and take massive and consistent action until you create the results that you want and you come to be that way.
Believe in Yourself
Don’t ever let somebody tell you, you can’t do something. If you’ve got a dream, you’ve got to protect it. People who can’t or won’t do something for themselves, will want to tell you that you can’t do it - because they can’t. If you want something, you have to go and get it. Period. Believe in yourself and your dreams.
If you don’t believe in yourself, your dreams and aspirations, who will? You must believe that you can do it and that your dream is possible. Only then will you be able to tap into your potential and make things happen. The Wright brothers who invented the airplane were just bicycle repairman. They didn’t have degrees or a PhD in engineering. Because they had had a strong belief in their vision, flying with airplanes are possible today.
Most people only do things to the extent that they believe are possible. If you don’t believe you can fly, you will never dare to jump down from a building. If you don’t believe that you can climb Everest, you won’t even try it. It is when you believe that you can, you will train, research, prepare and eventually do it. Believing in yourself and your vision is how you tap into your maximum potential.
Learn from your Mistakes and Keep Improving
It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is also important to heed the lessons of failure. Success will come to you if you keep trying, improve your strategies and refine your actions. Doing the same thing over and over again will not get you a different result. If you took action and failed, what do you do? Give up and quit? Of course not; you change your strategies, learn from your mistakes and improve your action to get better results in the next round. This is how you will succeed. No one was born a champion or a master at something. Every master was once a disaster. Every champion was once a beginner who learnt through their own mistakes and improved from there on. Richard Branson was not born with all his business skill, neither was Steve Jobs born with amazing computer skills. All those people who you and I think are great people were not born great. Ordinary people had greatness thrust upon them by what they did. Arising from their hard work and great persistence in wanting to achieve great results, they went the extra mile and became extraordinary.
Remember, there are no failures, only feedback. As long as you never quit and treat your failures as feedback for you to learn and improve, you will never fail.
Don’t Work Alone
You can only accomplish so much by yourself. However, if you want to go to a higher level, you need a mentor, team and partners who can help you to scale. There are just so many things waiting for you to do, for instance, you need to focus on sales, make the call, follow up, do the marketing, meet clients, etc. You cannot do it all by yourself. One of the most important reasons you want to have a team by your side is so that your team can balance out your weakness and you can focus in on performing in your areas of strength. Teamwork makes the dream work.
Those people who don’t see this and think that they can handle everything by themselves will never take their business to the next significant level. Even champion athletes need coaches to guide them along the way. So do you think that a normal athlete doesn’t need help?
With over scheduled calendars and too-long to-do lists, you can find yourself feeling worn down and worn out. But there is something you can do anywhere, anytime to feel less stressed and more centered instantly, no matter how much you have going on. Breathing has tremendous power to change our state fast. It energises, focuses, relaxes you. In fact, working with your breath is one of the most powerful tools for increasing your health and wellbeing. You will also experience decreased feelings of overwhelm, reduced anxiety and depression, stabilised blood pressure, increased energy levels and muscle relaxation, so just stop, relax, and become aware of your breath and use it to enhance your physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
The breath allows you to tap into your own inner source of vital energy and experienced enhanced clarity, deep peace and radiant aliveness. Just squeeze in a little time to just breathe and be.
Always Give Back
Do not be stingy with your encouragement. Your words can be a catalyst for untold change in the lives of others. If you were going to die soon, and had only one call to make, who would you call, and what would you say? Why are you waiting?
If you look at successful people such as Bill Gates and Warren Buffett, they donate most of their wealth for charity and give back to society. They did not do this because they are rich, but because they know that doing this will make them even more successful.
When you donate to someone who is in need, the person that changes the most is not the one who receives the money (because we cannot change what has happened to that person), but the person who donates. This is because when you contribute, you know that you have enough and you know that deep within you, you have done something noble.
And when you do something noble, you will feel good, and you will feel satisfaction. These feeling make you more confident because you know that you have helped someone else before. So practice this habit right now. Contribute back to the society and to the world. Start small and grow from today. An awake heart is like a sky that pours light. Every act of love and kindness raises the vibration of the entire universe.
Trust the Greater Intelligence
The universe speaks to you through your thoughts. Notice and follow the ideas you have recently received. Are these thoughts answers to your prayers for guidance? All wonderful ideas originate from the one divine mind. Logic will get you A to Z. Imagination will get you everywhere.
Creativity is not a rare commodity, nor the privilege of great artists and thinkers. Creativity is a limitless resource, available to all of us if we know how to get out of the way and let it happen.
Creativity is not something you can do, or force to happen. You can learn to listen with every fibre of our being, to exquisitely attune the human mind-body, and allow a greater intelligence to come through you.
When creativity finds its way through you, you realise that it wasn’t you at all. However, if you make an idol of your creativity, you risk losing the connection to that endless flow, because you are enacting the very thing that blocks it.
To have faith is to trust yourself in the universe, like you trust yourself to the water. When you swim, you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do, you will sink and drown. Instead, you relax and float.
With every single action, create what you care for.
Every moment is an opportunity to witness the sacred. Practice learning not to close your eyes, to notice without judgement, to see with unconditional acceptance and let go without effort all that which stands in the way of loving the world.
Your destiny whispers in your ear. Can you hear the message? When you don’t listen, your soul moves on, and you will rarely get the same inspiration back. When an inspired idea comes to you, you must act on it. Do not wait and say to yourself that this is not the right time. The right time is now. Listen and act on it. Truth is the only thing you will ever run into, that has no agenda.
What you know can only get you where you are today. If you want to go further, you have to learn more, change and do what you need to, to succeed. Your gift is needed in the world.
A Recipe for Presence:
Preparation Time: Now
• A sprinkle of laughter
• A touch of the sacred
• A dash of joy
• A taste of kindness
• A bit of compassion
• A pinch of glee.
- Mix with gratitude.
- Garnish with celebration