Competition and Jealousy
Competition has long been responsible for survival of the fittest in the jungle. Competition starts with us at a very early age, and we experience it throughout our entire life. We get our first taste of competition as a baby when we compete for exclusive attention from our mother. This continues as we grow older and compete for recognition from our siblings or classmates. In another era, early on in school, we were encouraged to win and be the best. It exists to choose who gets the prize when the prize can't be shared.
It’s difficult to be competitive without being jealous. Jealous is defined as being intolerant of rivalry and vigilant in guarding a possession. The dictionary also describes being jealous as distrustfully watchful and suspicious. Some of these qualities are not ones we want to cultivate, especially when as we become competitive and jealous, we learn to believe that another person’s success lessens our own.
We must think of the world as abundantly filled with enough for everyone. If we don’t have as much as our business associates and neighbours we should be happy for their success and help them achieve more if possible. It is impossible to help others achieve without helping ourselves at the same time.
We are all born with our personal talents and there are others who have talents we will never possess. We will probably never win an Olympic gold medal but we can be happy for those who do. We enjoy their accomplishments vicariously. Many people watch athletic events and cheer on their team and celebrate their victory. We must do this in everyday life as well.
Learn from those who are better than you and improve. Surround yourself with happy successful people and you will be happy and successful too.
With being more accountable to ourselves we create our own 'luck'. In this way, winning at anything can be seen as a aspect of being accountable to yourself. Learn to be inspired with success whether it’s yours or anothers. Strive to be the best but eschew jealousy.
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