Let us start off by talking about your success:
What does success mean to you? What is it really all about?
Is it about things? Is it about material possessions? Is it about the way other people see you when you are successful? Is it about adulation and fame?
Think about your answers to these questions. As you will have seen, there are correct answers to all of these questions and none of those answers are yes.
Material possessions are a side effect of success. So is money. So are adulation, recognition and authority. All these things are signifiers of success but none of them are success itself.
So then, what is success really all about?
In order to answer this question correctly you will need to let go of your adult self and all of your adult preconceptions and prejudices, and float the possibility of thinking back to when you were a child: remember what it was like to be a child and readopt a child’s worldview.
You will need to repossess a child’s motivations. In short, you have to, once again, begin thinking like a child.
How does a child define success? A child defines a success by the goal. A child succeeds when he or she gets what they want.
They are not deterred by the word “no”. They are not stopped by their own inner voice. They do not care what others think of their goal or their behaviour in trying to achieve that goal. You could say that a child is nearly 100% goal oriented.
A child also sees the universe as limitless and the possibilities within that universe as limitless, as well. This means that child does not feel constrained by any self-imposed restraints.
The child also doesn’t feel constrained by outside forces. If the child can conceive of something, then the child feels that they can achieve that something.
This lack of constraint and restraint further feeds the child’s laser focus on their goal.
A child is, if anything, innocent as well. This innocence is not a bad thing. In fact, it is a shield protecting the child from worry and fear when it comes to goals.
The child doesn’t worry about failure and the outcomes of failure. The child doesn’t deal in eventualities. There are no eventualities. There is no down side. There is only the goal.
As adults you can create/reinforce a goal three times:
Firstly, as a mental picture.
Secondly, when you write it down. This adds clarity and dimension.
And thirdly, when you take action towards its achievement.
Yet, have you tried to stick with goals and yet found the lack of motivation to keep going? To force yourself to keep going sounds difficult and painful. If you have to do that to achieve all you have achieved, than perhaps you would not have got very far. Most people, do not have an advanced attention span, and only enjoy doing things that are fun, easy and not hard or painful. So, if you want all the promised rewards that goal setting says you will get (but often fails to deliver), then you need to give designing your life a go. Life designing is directed playing. It is easy and fun and goes along with your nature, whereas goal setting requires working hard and motivation to stand a chance. The only motivation you need with life designing is deciding to have some fun thinking up a few things you'd like to negotiate into your reality. It's knowing how to direct your thoughts on purpose instead of by accident. When you attain this level of mastery, you don't even need to write anything down. You will discover that you can merely just thiunk about it and things will start happening… and they will start happening too fast. Knowing that you can negotiate any reality you desire, with all the possibilities for your life and the lives of those you love, now you may decide to use goal setting as a management tool as you become a master at life designing
We owe it to ourselves to build a life that represents something bigger than ourselves.
Are you ready to stand for your message?
...Stand for a business that creates multiple streams of income
...Stand for humanity
...Stand for your God given right to impact your clients, students, patients, and live your dreams.
Think big, just like a child does.
"However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at".