Boosting your Confidence
Confidence is an important factor in our lives. When we hold back, we lose a lot of opportunities that we may regret about as we grow old. We have all the time now to be true to ourselves and live a life with confidence. We don’t have a lifetime to live under the shadows of doubts, fears and insecurities. Our role is to accept ourselves and be confident about what we’re doing.
One of my favorite motivational quotes by Thomas Edison himself is: “I haven't failed. I just found 10000 ways that didn't work!”
This is a great segway to bring us to the main story for today:
One day Thomas Edison came home and gave a paper to his mother. He told her, “My teacher gave this paper to me and told me to only give it to my mother.”
His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her child: Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.
After many, many years, after Edison’s mother died, and he was now one of the greatest inventors of the century, one day he was looking through old family things. Suddenly he saw a folded paper in the corner of a drawer in a desk. He took it and opened it up.
On the paper was written: Your son is addled. We won’t let him come to school any more.
Edison cried for hours and then wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”
Confidence is an issue that everyone faces. It is the key to unlocking opportunities in this world with our own potentials. However, the absence of confidence could also affect you unless you believe that you have a lifetime to hide under your shell.
Internally, the best way to deal with a lack of confidence is to go back to your mindset, and think about how you are not separate from the whole. While all of us are bounded with different problems and experiences, we live in a common world that links all of us together. Whilst we are somehow connected in a world that continually subjects us to things that make us feel as if we are alone, but if we acknowledge the opposite, we will not feel that we are facing our problems alone, that this world is too big for us, and that to overcome our fears is an uphill battle that we will never be able to achieve.
Here are some steps you can employ to radically boost your confidence:
Mental Recall: I will embrace the highlights of my life
Think about those times when you felt proud of yourself. Keep that in your mind. Recreate a situation in the past when you felt confident. Think about how it feels. Remember every detail that you could remember. And then enter into that confidence bubble.
Anchor your thoughts into that memory and feel confident. Step back, and bring in that big feeling of joy when you felt good about yourself and you’re not holding back. And maybe, you can let go of those doubts, fears and insecurities and start revealing yourself into a new confident you!
Challenge yourself: I will not be intimidating in my confidence.
It pays off to constantly challenge yourself. Obviously, staying within your comfort zone won’t do you any good in the long-term. So think about going beyond what you already know, and start learning new things that will challenge you, so much so that you can tell yourself in the end that, “Hey, I can do this!”
Change your body language
Posture: Stand tall, head up, make eye contact. These usually reveal how confident a person is. So instead of caving your body in and other casual ways, why not try elevating your posture and maintain eye contact?
When you slowly practice them day by day, you will get to a point of being confident. A confident person radiates positive energy of genuineness. Be honest to yourself.
Stop thinking about yourself: I will be supportive of others.
The most impactful moments of our lives are those that are beyond ourselves. Life does not always have to revolve around what benefits us, or what can best feed our self-esteem. Amongst the nicer best ways to feel confident is to feel that we are in a community that accepts us for our true selves. We therefore return that gift by touching other people’s lives. Ask yourself, “Who am I impacting?” And gradually, your life will begin to shift to a “give-centric” life.
You are destined for something greater.
Shanti Gowans is the globally recognised author and founder of Shanti Yoga™, Meditation and Ayurveda for the self, family and community.
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