Mary was feeling frustrated when she caught up with her mentor and guru for their regular chat.
“I just feel as though I have no control over my life at the moment. My parents are telling me one thing, my friends are telling me another. Everything keeps changing and I’m not sure what I should be doing next.”
The mentor nodded her head and left the room for a moment, returning with a chess board.
She set it down on the table between them and motioned for Mary to start.
They casually exchanged a few turns without any real intent, before guru spoke for the first time.
“In the game of chess, who are you?”
“At the moment, I feel like a pawn. I’m limited in my movement and don’t have much ability,” responded Mary.
“Who would you rather be?” guru asked.
“I would rather be the Queen, of course. She can move in any direction and is the most feared piece on the board.”
“Are you sure about that?”
“Of course! Isn’t it obvious.”
Guru sat back from the table for a moment and said in a quiet, yet firm voice,“You don’t want to be the pawn, or the Queen. To be the person you were meant to be, you need to be the player moving the pieces around. Stop being pushed around by others and take charge. There are too many people in this world whose lives are dominated by the decisions of others…their boss, their parents, their peers, the media, government decisions. You are better than that, step up and take charge! We weren’t born to be pieces shuffled around on a board, we were born to positively influence and impact the world around us.”
Mary nodded her head and smiled, “Check-mate.”
Taking charge of your life is the most empowering thing in the world.
The world can really push you around and you have to maneuver between standing on your own and the desire to appease others. And, quite often, there’s usually an in between - if not, you've got some tough decisions to make…
You have choice.
You have choice about the people you want to hang around with.
You have a choice how to react to situations.
You truly do have a choice about your own energy (even though sometime it just seems soooo hard).
Sometimes it’s easy to forget that you do.
Lets be the players, not the pawns.