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Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You

2 Feb 2018   Shanti Gowans
Although it is natural for our brains to care about how others perceive us, it is not always healthy. 
If you find yourself often creating mind stories about what someone thinks about what you just said, or did, you are most likely creating dissatisfaction in your life. This can be turned around.
Everyone Has Flaws

We all make mistakes. We all have issues that we could work on to become better, happier people. 
And yes, that includes you, but it also includes those people you worry don’t like you or don’t think you are good enough. 
While it’s not healthy to drag up every negative thing you can think of about someone else, it is a good reality check to remember in general that no one is perfect.
Life is Short

It feels good to be liked and admired. But there are bound to be people in this world that you just do not click with. 
Being okay with that can be challenging, but if you find yourself trying to do everything you can to make someone like you, you are wasting your energy. 
Life is way too short to worry about what people might think of you, whether it is true of false. You cannot control what someone thinks. 
To ensure you are living the life you have to the fullest, it is healthier to just shrug your shoulders if someone seems to dislike you and move on.
They Aren’t Thinking About You

Most people are caught up in their own thoughts and worries. When you come into contact with someone who seems to look down on you, it may simply be that they feel bad about themselves, or a choice they just made. 
They, just like you, are caught up in their own mental world. The reality is that most of the time, people are not thinking about us at all, but are focused on what is going on in their own lives. They often react out of that place too, not based on what you have done or said.

Just Do It...Anyway

When you have a goal, something that you really desire to see happen, and find yourself often in a state of inaction because of fear of what others will think.
You may have even experienced having a close friend tell you how irrational, unlikely or just plain crazy your dream is, once you finally opened up and shared. 
Remember what we've just covered: Life is short, and we have to take a deep breath and dive in if we ever want our lives to be the way we want them to be. 
Do not let others determine what you can and cannot do. The risk is always worth taking.
There will always be critics, and no matter what you do or how hard you try you can't please all the people all of the time! 

So just let go of the need to please everyone. Let people say what they will say, and do what they will do.

As long as you are living your higher inner vision and being true to yourself and your heart. you are on the right path, which is all that matters. 
Be blessed. 


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Shanti Gowans is the globally recognised author and founder of Shanti Yoga™, Meditation and Ayurveda for the self, family and community.

Shantiji has brought the concepts and practices of a healthy body and a still mind to thousands of Australians through her Yoga and Meditation programs on national television... Read more about Shantiji's biography

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