Raj was feeling frustrated when he caught up with his mentor Ashok for their regular chat.
“I just feel as though I have no control over my life at the moment. My parents are telling me one thing, my friends are telling me another. Everything keeps changing and I’m not sure what I should be doing next.”
Ashok nodded his head and left the room for a moment, returning with a chess board.
He set it down on the table between them and motioned for Raj to start.
They casually exchanged a few turns without any real intent, before Ashok spoke for the first time.
“In the game of chess, who are you?”
“At the moment, I feel like a pawn. I’m limited in my movement and don’t have much ability,” responded Raj.
“Who would you rather be?” Ashok asked.
“I would rather be the Queen, of course. She can move in any direction and is the most feared piece on the board.”
“Are you sure about that?”
“Of course! Isn’t it obvious.”
Ashok sat back from the table for a moment and said in a quiet, yet firm voice,“You don’t want to be the pawn, or the Queen. To be the person you were meant to be, you need to be the player moving the pieces around. Stop being pushed around by others and take charge. There are too many people in this world whose lives are dominated by the decisions of others, such as their boss, their parents, their peers, the media, government decisions. You are better than that, step up and take charge! We were not born to be pieces shuffled around on a board, we were born to positively influence and impact the world around us.”
Raj nodded his head and smiled, “Check-mate.” With that, he rose from his chair and walked out of Ashok's cabin six inches taller, determined to change the world.
Taking charge of you life is the most empowering thing in the world.
The world can really push you around and you have to maneuver between standing on our own and the desire to appease others – there’s usually an in between (if not you've got some tough decisions to make…)
You have choice.
You have choice about the people we want to hang around with.
You have a choice how to react to situations.
You truly do have a choice about your own energy (even though sometime it just seems soooo hard).
Sometimes it’s easy to forget that you do.
Lets be the players, not the pawns.